Have you ever been on a date and it just absolutely sucked? Same here! Not only is a first date already daunting but it makes everything so much worse when the other person is just completely checking off all the boxes of what NOT to do! Statistically, 3 percent of first dates eventually turn into […]
Mastering Dirty Talk: Use Words To Get Hard + Get Wet
“My neck, my backLick my pussy and my crackFirst you gotta put yo’ neck into itAh don’t stop, just do it, do it” Don’t you wish you could talk this dirty and this confidently in the bedroom like Khia did in that legendary song? Bruh, given a chance, I would gobble Khia’s badass energy up […]
Relationship burnout + how to connect with others outside of your relationship
I don’t know about you, but I found myself spending too much time with my significant other in quarantine. While this hasn’t been a bad thing since it brought us much closer and made our relationship healthier it made me realize that I need to prioritize my self, and the other relationships in my life […]
The secrets to a 50+ year marriage
My parents are celebrating their 53rd wedding anniversary today…. 53 years!!! over 5 decades being with the same person and there was a time not too long ago when I couldn’t even get a text back. Growing up I always looked up to my parents relationship, it wasn’t perfect but they always loved each other, […]
Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger: Magic Formula to Please Your Woman
Written by Aditi Paul Candace Bushnell, the legendary author of Sex and the City said, “Should is the worst word in the English language. People always think things “should” be a certain way, and when they’re not, they’re disappointed.” An area of life where you really feel the toxic effect of the word “should” is […]
Couples who have great sex do these 13 things
As some of you may know through my dating history and life story, I have a lot to say when it comes to sex and relationships. In the last 3 years since my divorce, I’ve thrown myself into so many books, YouTube videos, online self-help gurus, and relationship experts to work on myself AND also […]
Do men and women (fake) orgasms the same?
Written by Aditi Paul In this world where every Instagram influencer and their mothers insist that we live our most authentic selves, you know what the real truth is? It’s that we have alllllll faked orgasms. Yeah, even you—the one who is vehemently shaking your head saying, “I don’t know what you are talking about. […]
Out with the old, in with the new.
Out with the old, in with the new….. I am moving into a new apartment in a few days; although I’ve moved many times in my life, this move is the most significant of them all. When my ex-husband and I separated three years ago, I was sleeping in the guest room while we worked […]
Why 2020 was the best year of my life
To be very honest, I am always apprehensive of New Year’s posts because I always thought this holiday was overrated. It’s just another day, another year, and it doesn’t really change anything. It’s also a poor excuse for us to delay goals and wishes to the New Year. All that being said, this year was […]
Sex and JC “He’s Just Not That Into You”
Someone really needs to write a manual for dating in 2020. Between the apps and social media dating has become confusing AF. So much so we even started a whole podcast trying to decipher what it all means. A few months ago a reader messaged me asking for my advice. A man she was seeing […]
8 Ways to Meet Other Single People (During a Pandemic)
It can be hard to be single right now for more reasons than one! If you’re currently single and trying to navigate the uncharted waters of dating during a global pandemic, you are not alone! Contrary to popular belief, there actually are (at least 8) ways to meet other singles in the midst of Covid-19. […]
Sex and JC: How to get over a breakup
We’ve all been there. Heartbroken. Love is hard, messy, gut wrenching, torturous but also beautiful, intoxicating, a fucking incredible feeling. There is nothing like being loved and loving someone. There is nothing like choosing and being chosen. Friendship, partnership, laughter, hugs, kisses, cuddles, sex…. I can go on and on till the break of dawn. […]
Do you believe in true love?
Do you believe in true love? That “can’t get enough of you” love? Soul mate, ride or die, best friend, love of your life? “I want to tear your clothes off forever and ever” love? Does it actually exist, or is it make-believe? An idea that we were fed from birth? Fall in love, settle down, […]
Sex and Jersey City Season 2 Episode 4: It’s Going Down
Oral sex – how important is it? This week, the crew talks about all things oral and dives deep into how crucial it can be for some sexual relationships. You can listen to all of our episodes on Soundcloud, Spotify and now on Apple Podcasts!
Letter from Chicpea: Single & Fucking Fabulous
I recently read a 2016 article titled “25 Famous Women on Being Alone” where they list successful women from all ages who are single. Honestly, the concept of the article pissed me the f off. Being single does not mean you’re “alone.” Just because a woman is not in a relationship, doesn’t mean she is alone. […]
Sex and Jersey City Ep 1: Phil The Friendly Ghost
Welcome to our first Episode of Sex and Jersey City. What is this monthly column you ask? Well if you are only joining us now read the Sex and Jersey City Prelude here. Every few weeks I will be sharing stories that were submitted to us by readers, friends and maybe from my own experiences […]
Sex and Jersey City: The Prelude
I grew up watching Sex and The City and always fantasized when I would be older that I would be successful, fabulous and having the time of my life being single in the city (I was living in Montreal at the time). Well at first, my life didn’t quite turn out that way, I met […]
8 Dating Trends to Look Out For in 2018
Hey guys, Tarol here, If you’re reading this, I want you to know… Cuffing season is over and chivalry is dead, so stop looking for something that doesn’t exist. Just kidding! Cuffing season is over, but chivalry is still very much alive. With that being said, your mom and dad’s style of dating is not. […]
My Worthy Heart
So much of my life has been spent baring my heart to people who were undeserving of it. My pattern was the same every time. I’d invest fully into relationships with people who were minimally invested in me. I was always empathetic, seeing people for their highest potential, peeling back the layers of my soul […]
Dating in your 20s vs 30s: The Showdown
Dating in your 20s is very different from dating in your 30s. While you don’t have to completely change what it is that you do, it makes sense to be adaptable and adjust your approach. If you are using the same tactics at 37 that you used at 23, you might not have the best […]